When Words Can Kill

“You can’t trust men, they are all the same,” “I will never have a baby,” “I can’t talk in public,” “I’ll get even with them if it’s the last thing I do,” “I will never love anyone like that anymore.”

Words are containers that bring us blessing or curses. You choose the words to speak life or death.

Flower photo (Photo credit: @Doug88888)

Jody* (not her real name) was the eldest of five children, and her parents had to work all the time. Since the tender age of six, Jody had to take care of her siblings like she was the mom. She fed them, bathed them, and cooked for them. Jody grew up resenting her role. She had to be a mom to her siblings until she was 18.

“I raised my sisters and brothers. I don’t want to have any children,” she said. Resentment and bitterness took root in her heart.

Some years later, she got married. After been married for 3-4 years, she and her husband decided to have kids. But she couldn’t get pregnant. She went to the doctor but found nothing was wrong with her body. She went to a prayer counsellor and realized that she had made the vow not to have children.

English: Forget-me-not flowers. Türkçe: Unutma beni çiçekleri. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Angela* (not her real name) was sexually molested by her cousins at a young age.

“I would never trust a man,” she said.

In her personal life, she went from one relationship to the next. Finally, she did get married, but experienced marital problems. She kept secrets from her husband and found it hard to be intimate with him. Jody didn’t realize where this was coming from because she had forgiven her offenders.

She went for spiritual counseling and through prayer, she discovered that she had vowed that she would never trust men. When she repented, the vow was broken. After that, she was able to open up to her husband emotionally and intimately.

“Words kill, words give life; they’re either poison or fruit—you choose.” Proverbs 18:21, MSG.

The inner vows we make in our childhood, whether consciously or unconsciously, shape our character over time. When we make statements accompanied by strong emotions, with an unyielding bitter compromise, it takes a foothold in our life.  It makes our heart hard in that area. These inner vows have been long forgotten, but remain in the invisible realm of our consciousness. The Holy Spirit is the only One who can bring them to the surface.

“Do not harden your hearts, as they were hardened once when you provoked me, and put me to the test in the wilderness.” Hebrews 3:8, KNOX.

Inner vows need to be discovered, repented of and broken. Allow the Holy Spirit to search out your heart, so that you can repent and break its negative effect over your life.

Lord, I need Your help to reveal any inner vow I have made that is hindering my life. I give You permission to walk back through my life and find these hidden areas. Let the hidden things be revealed. As You reveal these inner vows I have spoken over myself, I ask for forgiveness and I repent of this sin. I renounce and reject the hold it has had over my life. I break agreement with this vow and the enemy’s influence over my life. Thank You for Your for Your forgiveness and releasing me from this inner vow.

In Jesus’ Name. Amen