Three Fingers Pointing Back at You

Have you heard people saying the following or have you said this yourself; If they hadn’t said this I wouldn’t have done that. He is the cause of me lying or cheating, etc. If they had never cut in front of me, I would have never cussed them out. It is not my fault because they made me do it. This famous line, “The devil made me do it.” We are talking about blaming other people. Blame means to assign responsibility for a fault or wrong.
Here are some enlighten quotes I found about Blame.
1. Blaming others for your for your situation is easy. It’s much more productive to search your past and see what caused your faults
2. When you blame and criticize others, you are avoiding some truth about self. Deepak Chopra
3. You will never become who you want to be if you keep blaming everyone else for who you are.
When you use your finger to point out someone faults, you have three fingers pointing back at you. Look at what scripture says about
judging and blaming in Matthew 7:1-3 Message Bible.
“Don’t pick on people, jump on their failures, criticize their faults— unless, of course, you want the same treatment. That critical spirit has a way of boomeranging. It’s easy to see a smudge on your neighbor’s face and be oblivious to the ugly sneer on your own. Do you have the nerve to say, ‘Let me wash your face for you,’ when your own face is distorted by contempt? ”
Let us identify these three fingers that point back to our faults:
1. Irresponsibility– we want to place the blame on others and not take responsibility and accountability for our actions. We become defensive and want to throw the suspicion on someone other than us.
2. Insecurity and inferiority–we usually have some low self-esteem issues and wrong concepts of who we are. We have fears that if people see us, they may not like us. We want to hide who we are.
3. Identity–the bottom line is that we do know who we are and how much God loves us.
Our solution is to take responsibility for our actions by discovering what may be causing this problem. (This is an excellent place to go through some Transformational coaching or have an Accountability partner). You always need to come in the’opposite’ spirit so where there is a negative thought about yourself or someone else replaces it with a positive one. Focus on what God says about you. We have one emotional focus so let’s give our attention to loving God and learning how much He loves us!